Do you need to be in love to be in a relationship?

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You have butterflies in your stomach each time you see him or her, that’s how you know you’re in love and that’s why you’re in a relationship. But is that all there is to it? The answer to the question stems in your own understanding of love.

What is love to you: a romantic love, friendship, loyalty or respect?  Perhaps, love encompasses all of the above? But while knowing all these things, we often find ourselves in the following scenario:

You meet a person .You guys go on a couple of dates and soon you can’t get enough of that person. Passionate kisses are shared and you’re crazy about the person. In no time you are in a couple. Weeks go by and while you see certain signs you still tell yourself everything is perfect. However  time goes by and there’s little issues. These issues become bigger and you can’t ignore them anymore. It’s only been 3 months and you wonder if the person has changed? You feel like there’s nothing left. Well, the person hasn’t changed maybe you didn’t know her that well. There’s nothing left because you’ve chose passion. You didn’t take time to build, friendship, loyalty and respect. Sometimes, we forget about the multidimensional character of love and we focus on superficial feelings.

So one must ask himself a different question: What are the components of love that I need, knowing the person that I am to be in a relationship?

Like Milva Von Akan says ‘’ There’s many shades of love, and you need all of them, in the right dose to make it all work’’

Tell me what you think

If you like it check my webserie Ep.2 of ‘’On a ride with: Milva Von Akan’’ @ youtube.com/milvavonakan

See you Wednesday!!!

MVA

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3 thoughts on “Do you need to be in love to be in a relationship?

  1. Like Milva Von Akan says ‘’ There’s many shades of love, and you need all of them, in the right dose to make it all work’’

    Yes – I think this is right.

    With that – it has to be sorted out carefully – how to give love and accept love?

    I think the biggest barrier of love being given is that love is not accepted as being given freely. The recipient feels that it absolutely has to be reciprocated in the same frame as it is being given, then that is where the many shades get mucked up, and sadly the love stops.

    It is really up to everyone to boldly give love freely and as often as possible,and in all ways possible. Yea – there will be both acceptance and rejection.

    I myself am hoping to show my love more freely – be it a smile, a hug, or just to listen to someone who needs to express themselves.

    What if a person NEVER gave love – or could NEVER get love? That is worse to me. Never is too much to bear….

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